I’ve been the mistress for one reason or another it seems longer than I remember. But some of us know we cannot teach an old ‘dog how to suck an egg’.
Having the right ‘attitude’ is everything in the mistress relationship that calls for flexibility. It allows for changes and adjustments to events that need to come in a knowing way. It could be said it’s the wives who create the need for the mistress.
Some wives are so controlling over their husbands; dictating the terms he should follow. And cause him to seek refuge outside for someone who is less controlling than his wife.
Another who takes him as God almighty while another is forced to take his wife as God almighty instead?
Now he finds that one side to him loves his wife and another resents her ways and so the battle begins. As he examines his situation he feels the need for his mistress, who makes him feel like a man, helping him stand up and perform like one.
He wants his mistress who’s willing to please, supplies him with his desires who allows him to accept the ways of his wife who adds strife to his life.
Now There Is a Battle Under the Umbrella Of Love…But Who’s Love?
Each love has their own reason to be. Their own needs and wants that lie among the three aspects to our being, body mind and soul.
Like the man, his wife and mistress, where there are three different loves. One for his wife, one is for the husband, and one is for his mistress.
Each in their own position presents their own situation going in their own direction fulfilling their own intentions. Did you hear someone say, “Yes please?” That’s me!
Now the battle begins among three players with wife, husband, and mistress each equipped with means of their own for holding to their side of the bed and fence.
There’s the wife sitting on her high horse, the husband acting like a jackass and the mistress who knows how to play the ass. Each are like, “The Three Wise Men” no one is willing to amend.
It’s one thing to discover the husband is like a little boy inside, and another thing treating him like one when married to him. And as women we like to feel we are holding onto a man.
We like to feel there’s a man at our side, rather than having to treat him like he’s a boy. Then find that that is a whole new ball game. One many women are not equipped to deal with or at handling.
We have heard the saying, “See me and to live with me, are two different things”. This is a recipe for wife and husband when at their wits end with each other.
The fact that some get it all wrong in their marriage provides a need for the mistress to enter in. We need to understand the world of men and the world of women better. Will we agree that we are complex beings? And a great deal of understanding is needed to address the root cause to our differences. Some get flustered without a clue as to what to do, thinking sex and their body would be enough for their marriage to endure, find it to be quite the opposite.
I recall that there was an incident when I was younger, then my concept of a good kiss was in the deep sucking and pulling of the man’s tongue of course pull it, I did. I was eager to prove how great I was with my kissing skills. I had thought kissing was one of mine strengths, until one morning after the night before, the man who I end up marrying asked me, “What kissing school did I attend?”, I was quick with my reply, “None!”
Then went on to ask him why he had asked. His reply, “his tongue was paining him!” due to the way I had pulled it the night before. For me it was what kissing was all about.
This incident allowed me to see although my intention was to leave a lasting impression of myself on him, trying to prove I was good but good at what? Pulling out his tongue?
It’s a good thing it was only his tongue! Supposing it was something else? The point is he suffered at my expense, due to me thinking ‘I knew’ when it came to kissing. This happens with relationships and marriages in spite of us having good intentions, doesn’t mean our actions will be right.
My father thought he had good intentions when he fed me with ideas as a child that I didn’t need an education. That my place was in the home to take care of my husband and children but, whose purpose was that to serve my husband’s or mine?
Thus the mistress is to pay attention to see on whose stool she sits making sure her own fits; to face life scenarios where some think their intention is good yet, ends up being bad for others. Believe they are good for us yet their kind of goodness we don’t need and this happens all the time in relationships.
The 11th commandment ought to be, “We are to have mercy on ourselves”. Without this we’ve lost entry into heaven, and we find no peace here on earth. Self-love and vanity make us inflect pain on ourselves and others under the umbrella of love.
Love is a word we are all too gullible to hear willing to accept without further noticing “which love” or “whose love”? Yet, no two loves are the same. Each holds to their own answers to their own name.
Some men are happy to fuck a woman’s brains out all night, calling it ‘love making’ which leave us with body aching for his next days taking. Now where is the love in that?
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