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  1. My New Book: Secrets of a Good Mistress

    September 1, 2011 by Mistress

    I apologize for not being able to share new posts with you & I’m grateful to all you readers for commenting and relating to my articles. I’ve been quite busy working on my new book, that is now available on amazon. It is entitled ‘Secrets of a Good Mistress’ & if your interested in owning a copy please visit http://secretsofagoodmistress.com/, for more info.
    The book would also soon be available in Jamaica bookstores, like Bookaphilia.

    In the book I share my insights, gained from walking the path of “the other woman”. It also shines a torch for the millions of women that knowingly or unknowingly have found themselves in this role to illuminate their way.


  2. Mistress Secrets:: Joys of Having an Affair

    February 1, 2010 by Mistress

    Sometimes we sit around waiting…waiting for the right guy or gal to walk through the door.

    But rarely does that happen, at least not for me.

    As a mistress, for me things happen when I take action.

    When I get up and spruce up myself – and make arrangements to get social and place myself in places where I can at least meet like minded individuals that share a common interest. It’s particularly good when that interest allows for passions to rise and libidos can increase.

    I love to dance. My having an affair started on the dance floor. We just connected.

    I looked up at him and felt the familiar stirrings, deep within…I was melting inside.
    As so it was that we first got together. How will it be for you?

    Will you too come to know the Joys of having an affair as completely as I?
    I can only hope so. As both the joy and freedom that I’ve experienced needs to be known
    by many – not just the fortunate few.

    I’ll reveal more from the Mistress ViewPoint Vantage…

    Bookmark and join the discussion.

    MistressMaven.


  3. Mistress Secrets:: Joys of Living as a Mistress

    January 31, 2010 by Mistress

    Mistress Secrets reveals the joys and happiness gained through living as a mistress.

    From the dawn of time we have engaged in adult affairs of the heart.

    We find ourselves having illicit affairs, born of intrigue shrouded in secrecy, laced in passion,  layered under discretion.

    We are now become “the other woman” whispered about, in gossip columns.

    The other woman that gets the “quality time and tribute” .

    Secretly, enjoying heightened experiences where time together is valued as so soon comes the morrow.


  4. We All Know: “We Cannot Teach An Old Dog How To Suck An Egg”.

    May 1, 2012 by Mistress

    I’ve been the mistress for one reason or another it seems longer than I remember. But some of us know we cannot teach an old ‘dog how to suck an egg’.

    Having the right ‘attitude’ is everything in the mistress relationship that calls for flexibility. It allows for changes and adjustments to events that need to come in a knowing way. It could be said it’s the wives who create the need for the mistress.

    Some wives are so controlling over their husbands; dictating the terms he should follow.  And cause him to seek refuge outside for someone who is less controlling than his wife.

    Another who takes him as God almighty while another is forced to take his wife as God almighty instead?

    Now he finds that one side to him loves his wife and another resents her ways and so the battle begins. As he examines his situation he feels the need for his mistress, who makes him feel like a man, helping him stand up and perform like one.

    He wants his mistress who’s willing to please, supplies him with his desires who allows him to accept the ways of his wife who adds strife to his life.

    Now There Is a Battle Under the Umbrella Of Love…But Who’s Love?

    Each love has their own reason to be. Their own needs and wants that lie among the three aspects to our being, body mind and soul.

    Like the man, his wife and mistress, where there are three different loves.  One for his wife, one is for the husband, and one is for his mistress.

    Each in their own position presents their own situation going in their own direction fulfilling their own intentions. Did you hear someone say, “Yes please?” That’s me!

    Now the battle begins among three players with wife, husband, and mistress each equipped with means of their own for holding to their side of the bed and fence.

    There’s the wife sitting on her high horse, the husband acting like a jackass and the mistress who knows how to play the ass. Each are like, “The Three Wise Men” no one is willing to amend.

    It’s one thing to discover the husband is like a little boy inside, and another thing treating him like one when married to him.  And as women we like to feel we are holding onto a man.

    We like to feel there’s a man at our side, rather than having to treat him like he’s a boy. Then find that that is a whole new ball game. One many women are not equipped to deal with or at handling.

    We have heard the saying, “See me and to live with me, are two different things”. This is a recipe for wife and husband when at their wits end with each other.

    The fact that some get it all wrong in their marriage provides a need for the mistress to enter in. We need to understand the world of men and the world of women better. Will we agree that we are complex beings? And a great deal of understanding is needed to address the root cause to our differences. Some get flustered without a clue as to what to do, thinking sex and their body would be enough for their marriage to endure, find it to be quite the opposite.

    I recall that there was an incident when I was younger, then my concept of a good kiss was in the deep sucking and pulling of the man’s tongue of course pull it, I did. I was eager to prove how great I was with my kissing skills. I had thought kissing was one of mine strengths, until one morning after the night before, the man who I end up marrying asked me, “What kissing school did I attend?”,  I was quick with my reply, “None!”

    Then went on to ask him why he had asked. His reply, “his tongue was paining him!” due to the way I had pulled it the night before. For me it was what kissing was all about.
    This incident allowed me to see although my intention was to leave a lasting impression of myself on him, trying to prove I was good but good at what? Pulling out his tongue?

    It’s a good thing it was only his tongue! Supposing it was something else? The point is he suffered at my expense, due to me thinking ‘I knew’ when it came to kissing. This happens with relationships and marriages in spite of us having good intentions, doesn’t mean our actions will be right.

    My father thought he had good intentions when he fed me with ideas as a child that I didn’t need an education. That my place was in the home to take care of my husband and children but, whose purpose was that to serve my husband’s or mine?

    Thus the mistress is to pay attention to see on whose stool she sits making sure her own fits; to face life scenarios where some think their intention is good yet, ends up being bad for others. Believe they are good for us yet their kind of goodness we don’t need and this happens all the time in relationships.

    The 11th commandment ought to be, “We are to have mercy on ourselves”.  Without this we’ve lost entry into heaven, and we find no peace here on earth. Self-love and vanity make us inflect pain on ourselves and others under the umbrella of love.

    Love is a word we are all too gullible to hear willing to accept without further noticing “which love” or “whose love”? Yet, no two loves are the same. Each holds to their own answers to their own name.

    Some men are happy to fuck a woman’s brains out all night, calling it ‘love making’ which leave us with body aching for his next days taking. Now where is the love in that?


  5. What are Our Beliefs About Cheating?

    December 18, 2011 by Mistress

    This idea of cheating is something I feel strongly about enough to voice my opinion as a mistress.

    There’s a need I find for us to address and face about our “self love and vanity” which makes us

    believe we’re to own each other, especially if we’re married to a person. Many

    are unaware that we are composite of many that’s relating to the three aspects to our

    being, body, mind and soul. No one person or one thing satisfies all each is apart to  the whole. There are some to

    compromise, some to sacrifice or accept it’s down to one’s choice.

    Many use marriages as means of control or to dictate the other person’s life in

    what they’re to do under the umbrella to love. Its for us to  be aware each

    person sits on their own stool and they we cannot change. Many assuming to be

    already there being his wife, and is unable to switch their position to get a

    glimpse of how things could be seen or felt to their husband. Just wearing

    a ring as Mrs. This or That seems to be enough for many leaving the man

    void of love.

    This concept of ownership has allow us to leave out the importance of building

    relationships through respect and valuation taking into account the

    other person feelings from where they’re. We show what we would like others to hold

    and belief of us, and is unaware it’s coming from our false imaginary

    perception we hold and carry of ourselves.

    Ownership is not apart to

    Creation’s plan all is intermixed one the other. The sun, the earth, the moon mingles and works together though separate in themselves from one another.

    To us there’s one side on the outside and another on the inside and this runs

    right across the board in our lives. From we knew of ourselves we have been

    fed on false perceptions of ourselves to hold and unable to see it.

    This to do with why a man needs for his mistress, there are three aspects to

    his being in need of their own source of food in order to be, his wife

    supplies him with one side, his mistress another and the rest comes to him

    in between.

    And for each person it’s different as we don’t know who we will meet. Will

    it be a treat for us to greet, or a fear for us to be aware? And these

    things comes to us in their own time, we are not given or shown all at

    once its bits by bit they come.

    If he says he loves me in this moment its only one part to him saying

    that, it may not be so the next moment when the other side to him steps in.

    one side could be saying it through his feelings and the other could be

    from his thoughts or sensations.  In taking ourselves to be one and the same at all

    times, is one of our gravest fallacy.

    A man needs his mistress to find balance himself…”and in making him feel like

    a man is the most important thing to him it what he seeks”.

    This his mistress does even if she is regarded as second hand…how to make

    him feel himself real, this he’ll keep even while he is asleep.
    He is using his own tool; his own means that makes him happy, is he not

    entitled to his own happiness…when his breath leaves his body is he not on

    his own then.
    In life we to dare to be the all we’re to be, many
    Yet to see the all is in and around us given freely.

    Nothing stands alone, no one is an island
    We need to take and give to one another
    So let’s let it be.

    For more about being a good mistress visit http://SecretsofaGoodMistress.com